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Radio Interviews and Your Book: DARK DREAMS/WHITE FEATHER

April 23, 2010

 

The Internet is a fantastic place to meet new friends and share information that is helpful to others. I wrote SURVIVING CANCERLAND to help other women find answers to issues surrounding cancer treatment. So how do I get the message of my book out to the rest of the world? By using the Internet!

I was contact by Hailey Wiseman after we found each other on Twitter. She has a Blog Talk Radio Show and asked to interview me. I’ve never done a live radio interview before but realized it would be a perfect way to plug my book to thousands of listeners at one time—so I swallowed my trepidations and agreed.

I sent Hailey my book and she sent me a list of questions she would be asking me on the air. I studied the questions; formulated broad answers to them that could flow according to the direction the interview took and then dialed in from the security of my home. Being on live radio was a bit daunting for me. Hailey said my interview would be about twenty minutes long and then she would cover some other topics. The session went so well we had to stop at forty-five minutes so that she could get in a few important messages before she signed off. My web site received 55 more viewers after the interview and three more radio stations have contacted me. My interviews are on my website @ www.survivingcancerland.com.

If you are considering publishing a book, don’t wait for the book to be published before launching it. Build your platform using the internet, especially radio.

Here is my interview. I hope you enjoy it.

http://www.survivingcancerland.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/A-Cou…

Tags: BlogTalkRadio, KathleenO’Keefe-Kanavos, cancer, dreams, feather

MY Article in CWO

April 15, 2010

My artile on DEPRESSION: A Message From Self, in Cape Women Online Magazine

http://capewomenonline.com/Issue_Spring2010/Spring2010Articles/Depression.html

Getting an Agent

April 14, 2010

A great first piece of an ongoing series about getting an agent by editor Chuck Sambuchino of WRITER’S DIGEST www.guidetoliteraryagents.com/blog

DEPRESSION: A Message From Self?

April 9, 2010

 Unfortunately, cancer and depression go together like peanut and butter. During my severe bouts of depression I had a choice. I could take pills to alleviate it, or I could face it and figure out what my body and psych were telling me. I always believed that depression was a symptom, not an illness. Alleviating the symptom would not cure the disorder. I saw my depression as something that would diminish if I faced and cured the cause. This is easier said than done. I considered suicide as a means of escape rather than facing my “ghosts.” However, deciding to see what lessons I could learn from my depression was the first step toward a cure.

 Looking back on those difficult times I can now answer questions I avoided such as,  “Why was I depressed? How did depression serve me and what did it teach me?” Our mind is incredibly powerful and will create (manifest) situations to serve and save us.

I came to the conclusion that depression and illness was a way of forcing me to slow down and “look within” at memories (old baggage), events (past and present cycles), people (relationships), and life styles (habits) that are not to my benefit. Without depression I may have continued accepting whatever I thought life was throwing at me—settling for less than I needed and/or deserved.

I learned that just because something is thrown at me doesn’t mean I have to catch it, hold, and keep it, including insults or negative relationships. I can choose to duck or move out of the way. And, if I do catch it, I can choose to drop it. Depression made me stop and reassess my life-choices. I came to the conclusion that how people treat me is their Karma, how I respond to them is mine.  Not all relationships or situations should be avoided or dropped. And that is when I learned my most important lesson—the quickest way to change someone’s behavior is to change mine first. They must respond differently to the new behavior.

Illness and depression made me take time out for myself, taught me how to respect, honor, and put myself first, and to choose to change or walk away from bad habits, relationships and situations. I drew new boundaries with which I could live.

 A friend once asked me, “How can I just quit my job or walk away from my relationship if that is what is depressing or killing me.”

I answered her question with another question. “Are you worried about letting down your job and relationship or yourself?  Will they survive tomorrow if you are not around? Will you thrive if they are gone? You cannot hold a gift if your hands are full. Put something down.”

Now whenever I feel overwhelmed I take a step back and reassess my life. One of the first things I do is “check my inner baggage,” –the useless stuff I accumulated. I’m often surprised that I am bogged down with baggage that is not mine. Now, I simply drop it.  In the past I took on other people’s emotional baggage rather than respecingt their right to carry it. Old habits are hard to break. I’m still working on them. 

 As a care giver by nature I often thought that if I carried someone else’s troubles for them it would lighten their load. It doesn’t. It just makes mine heavier. That taught me a very difficult lesson—I cannot carry other people’s baggage or walk their path for them. I have to respect their life-lessons… to be learned by them… and my lesson was to respect and love them enough to let them learn those lessons, including mistakes. I will offer them my shoulder but not my back. Let me explain.

I learned that there is a big difference between being supportive and being a mule. A supportive person lends a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on. A mule carries the weight of the world on their back while refusing to focus on their own life—this is avoidance. It only takes another challenge to be the straw that breaks their back and sends them spiraling into depression.

Our mind is a beautiful thing. Experience has taught me that we manifest not only what we want but also what we need. Sometimes we need to slow down and reassess our lives. Depression served me in this capacity. I didn’t enjoy it and would not choose to go through it again. However, by facing depression rather than suppressing it, I learned from it, used it to change my life, and ultimately survived adversity and illness.

MY CHOICES FOR THE SUGAR DOLL BLOGGER AWARD AARRREEE…!

April 9, 2010

As a shared recipient of the FABULOUS SUGAR DOLL BLOGGER AWARD I was required to share ten unusual things about myself  http://liakeyes.ning.com/profiles/blogs/sharing-the-sign-of-a-true?commentId=3667139%3AComment%3A9660&xg_source=msg_com_blogpost and choose five other awardees. Those awardees must then share ten things about themselves and chose five more awardees.

I have made my decision. Please forgive me. I tried but could not choose just five. I chose an even six—three Guys and three Dolls. http://rachnachhabria.blogspot.com/2010/04/fabulous-sugar-doll-blogger-award.html  & http://liakeyes.ning.com/profiles/blogs/sharing-the-sign-of-a-true 

Choosing was harder than I thought but for a very different reason than I had originally imagined— I had more than five awardees. Choices, choices! My fear had been that I would not know five people for this award. I’m pleased to say that I could have easily chosen ten or twenty. Networking on the Internet has made me rich in friendships.  I thank the Universe for placing these wonderful people in my life and Lia Keys and Rachna Chhabria for creating and sharing this award.  If Lia Keyes had not developed the award, she would have been first on my list. Here are my six choices:

Jackie Paulson  http://c4women.ning.com/profile/JackiePaulson  a friend on C4Women (Connections for women.)

Genny Esterline http://c4women.ning.com/profile/GennyEsterline-  one of my first friends on Connections for Women.

Richard D. Nielson  http://liakeyes.ning.com/profile/RichardDNielsen  a friend on Scribblerati who writes about life…just like me.

Jason McElholne- http://jasonsnetwork.com/administrator/  founder of Jason Network

Pamela Ferris-Olson-  http://www.livingintheheartland.com a great friend and writer who met me on FaceBook, took me under her wing and shared my message on her many sites.

Peter Canova-  http://www.popeannalisa.com/   wonderful man who is deeply in touch with his “inner female” and author of the ground-breaking book POPE ANNALISA.

SHARING: The Sign of a True Friend

April 9, 2010

Sharing something sweet is the sign of a true friend and I feel privileged to be Rachna Chhabria’s.  She shared her Fabulous Sugar Doll Blogger Award with me. http://rachnachhabria.blogspot.com/2010/04/fabulous-sugar-doll-blogger-award.html 

 This award is given by British Fantasy Writer Lia Keys, founder of Scribblerati, http://liakeyes.ning.com/profiles/blogs/about-scribblerati  and ScribeChat on Twitter http://liakeyes.ning.com/opensocial/ningapps/show?appUrl=http%3A%2F%2Fos.ning.com%2Fningapps%2Ftwittertracker%2Fgadget.xml%3Fning-app-status%3Dnetwork&owner=timequest&readded=1

 Although Rachna Chhabria and I became instant friends and blog followers on Scribblerati, I only knew her by her bio and her writing. I got such a kick out of reading the list of Ten Unique Things About Rachna. We shared similarities, such as reading and writing multiple books simultaneously.  Imagine my surprise when I realized that I was now required, as a shared recipient, to write my own list. This took some soul searching because it can’t be just any ol’ list. It must be unique. Okay, Rachna, I’m up for the challenge. Here goes….

1.)    I was born in Frankfurt, Germany to an American military family. At age five I had to go before a judge to give up my dual citizenship and declare my American citizenship.  After saying the Pledge of Allegiance, the judge asked me if I could show in any other way how much I wanted to be an American citizen. So I tap-danced to God Bless America.

2.)    I was a first grader in Berlin, Germany the day the Berlin Wall went up. I watched it come down on TV while living in the United States.

3.)    I am fourth generation Psychic. At the age of two I could see and hear ghosts.

4.)    I love to scuba dive with sharks. I have never had a shark be aggressive toward me.

5.)    I love to scuba dive with wild dolphin.  It is like having dogs play under water with you—Big time play time!  One dolphin handed me a piece of seaweed as a flower by using its tail like a hand.

6.)    I never planned to be a writer. But like a kitten, my career chose me and I love it dearly.

7.)    My doctors missed twice what my dreams and meditations were telling me—that I had cancer. My dreams proved to be right and my doctors wrong. I’m alive because I listened to myself.

8.)    My synchronicity number is 1111. I notice it on clocks all the time. My favorite color is green.

9.)    I raised a wild baby blackbird on my Siamese cat’s food.  I have pictures of Fe-licks grooming Winky the bird. Winky still lives as a free bird in our backyard.

10.)My husband and I went for a boat ride and almost sank…we forgot to install the plug.

Namaste!

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April 9, 2010

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